I have two mother in laws. And both of them have played an important role in how I have developed as a mother. Until recently I was mostly defending myself to them. And yet, I have come to appreciate both of them in different was and for different reasons.
One of them has just been diagnosed with cancer. Hence my absense from the blog. It has been an emotionally draining time as we waited for news and results from tests. It is looking good. It looks like she will not even need chemo now after the surgery. And this is the MIL with whom I have a strained relationship to say the least. And yet we were able to talk honestly and openly about life and about me loosing my mother and her being diagnosed with cancer. It is a cliche, but such life changing experiences really do put things into perspective. And I have gotten over my anger that my SIL did not have to deal with loosing her mother unexpectedly. The reality of loosing my mother was brought home to me when I saw the panic around me with my SIL thinking she *might* loose her mother.
My 2nd MIL is a woman with whom I have had my differences with regards to parenting choices. Yet, essentially she has tried to be supportive, even when she has called me extreme.
And it is this MIL who took the time to tell me how admiring she is of how I have chosen to mother my son. How I inform myself on the importance of nutrition, preventative measures for health, discipline that empowers my son, not belittles him etc. She really spoke from the heart about how much she admires me for doing what I feel is best for my family. We also spoke about my relationship with her son. And how much DH and I have learned and grown from each other and from being parents together. She respects our relationship so much and appreciates me in a way that I did not know. It felt so good to know that I am so appreciated and respected.
In turn I could be more open with her and explain why I am concered about plastic in my sons environment and that I am still trying to decide where ‘the line’ is that will inform me on decisions regarding having plastic in his life. And to share a bit more about why I chose organic foods where possible. We actually had a non threatening conversation on such charged issues.
Today is Yom Kippur. I still have not decided how I want to observe Yom Kippur. I’ll get there. This year is not the year for me to honestly consider what this day means for me.
But I did want to share my experience of a softening in relations between myself and two women who are significant in my life, even if we don’t see eye to eye.
I look forward to posting more frequently again. I am sewing a wonder box and look forward to posting pics and experiences.
This article in Haaretz just annoyed me.
There has been a 4000% increase in sales on hand sanitisers. Almost every shop I have been into has these hand sanitisers for sale at the till, at about 10 NIS a 100 ml bottle. Parents are being required to equip their children with wet wipes and hand sanitiser? Good grief, the insanity is mind boggling. Soap and water are just fine.
And the saddest part is that it is antibacterial and swine flu, mexican flu or H1N1 is a virus. Antibacterial gels can’t protet you from a virus. And they are full of nasties.
Read here for some more on why antibacterial soaps and hand sanitisers are not such a hot idea.
Triclosan and triclocarban, and why you don’t want them on your skin.
Eat your fresh fruit and veggies, get out into the sun without sunscreen, get lots of sleep, love and laughter. And eat those fermented foods 🙂
I found a pattern, with instruction for sewing and using it.
I am so excited. My mother had one of these when we arrived in South Africa in 1982. We used it to make yoghurt, rice, porridge. When I was back now with my father after my mothers death, I even made him chicken soup in this Wonder Box. The one in my parents house is beautiful, a deep burgundy colour withgold embroidery and tassles. I wish I had a photo.
I am inspired and would like to make one for my family.
A quick intro from the site linked in this post:
The Wonder Box Cooker recipes and instructions originated from a booklet published by “Compassion” of South Africa in 1978,1979 and 1980. “Compassion” registered name Wonder Box and the logo of the kneeling figure. This information may be freely quoted, acknowledgments being made to “Compassion”
Wonder Boxes work like vacuum flasks. In these days when we are being warned of worldwide shortages of food and fuel, this wonder box and it’s simplicity is designed to keep food at the temperature needed for cooking. Using very little fuel you only use about 15 minutes of energy to bring the food to the required temperature and then put it into the Wonder box. It makes it as though it were a thermos. On the flip side it will also keep ice-cream cold for about 4 hours.
A wonderful way to save on energy 🙂
A totally yummy recipe found here.
The only addition I made was some coconut milk and a dash of cinnamon.
Oh, and ginger kefir is amazingly tasty…. I hope it works a second time.
I have been wanting to ferment my own veggies for ages – and have tried a couple of times, only to be dissapointed with mouldy or overly spiced or in some way unedable veggies.
I just recieved Nourishing Traditions and tried her Kimchi recipe, which is pretty similar to a recipe I found in a discussion forum here. And it works. It is really strong, but so so yummy.
I didn’t think it possible to preserve vegetables without vinegar and water.
Now for my ginger kefir…. it should be ready tomorrow.
Freinds of ours just lost their little girl. She was due to be born in another two weeks. My friend, the expectant mother, had placental abruption at 38 weeks and now she is mourning the death of her unmet child.
My heart is breaking.
I am devastated for her.
I a devastated for myself and for my own loss.
I am not dealing with this that well at all.